Wednesday, January 15, 2014
A word about anger
I have noticed that getting angry happens really quickly. You feel heat in your body, you frown, you tend to become hard like a shield. It's a natural self-defense mechanism. However, in terms of what's happening inside....you have let anger overcome you and that can hurt as much or more than actually getting hit by someone.
When someone does or says something to us we immediately start assuming and creating stories to back up that assumption. We don't take a moment to stop and reflect and live in reality.
That is what makes everyone go from mad to furious.
We should try to avoid this at all costs and start making excuses for the person who has angered us. Ask ourselves "Why is he/she doing that? and if we don't come up with at least 70 reasonable excuses, then we can tell ourselves, "there must be a reason which I don't understand at this moment."
This can help us go through almost any anger related situation.
Here are some of my tips on how to control anger or deal with anger:
1. Stop yourself right away. If you are standing, sit, if you are sitting lady down, if you need to wash up, do so.
2. DO NOT ASSUME
3. drink some water
4. take a breath of fresh air
5. go for a walk or exercise (even just stretches)
6. read a book
7. go out in nature (gardening)
8. remember your creator and be thankful
9. Make a prayer for the person you are angry with (ask that God makes his/her life easy and comes closer to Him)
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we get angry and "selective listening" happens....we listen to a person but since we are upset, we tend to choose parts of what the person is saying...
Another thing to watch out for is when upset, we tend to vent with people and this may not be good because instead of looking at the whole picture (how wonderful that person is in many ways), we look only at any and all negative traits they have and our focus is to share negative traits....backbite, all of which hurts people as well as ourselves.
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