On being PROACTIVE and less REACTIVE

When Tariq Ramadan spoke about "seeing from a different angle", he really opened up a new channel to "give" and "receive" in me....I often have "one way" of thinking or perceiving things which happen to me. I often assume something-which is completely ignorant to do.

Instead of assuming, we should find out "facts" and be EDUCATED. This is what will lead us to the ultimate success.

I was listening to a radio show on KPFK yesterday as I was driving. The radio host was African American and talking about the African American women's Anger. How she tends to "internalize" her anger instead of being active and doing something to change her condition.

This is something which we should all try to do. Be more "active" and less "reactive". I tend to be reactive and this is not a good side of the spectrum to be in! Instead of reacting to events that upset me, I need to stop myself, think, analyze, look at ALL possible options from ALL possible DIRECTIONS and then make a move.

If we want something to change, we must fight with LOVE. that is the only way we will SUCCEED.

I heard a lecture that was talking about just this! the lecturer gave a clear example. Imagine yourself: "fighting in a dark room against darkness"....so after few hours of fighting will you win? or will the darkness win? Of course the darkness will win.
All we have to do (to win) is stop fighting, explore alternatives, FIND the light switch! and we win!

In other words, the more love we put out, the more love we receive, and the more hate we put out, the more hate we receive. We almost "BECOME" what we do not want if we fight it with anger. Think about it...

if you scream, your children will scream back. If you sing to them, they will sing back. If you kiss them, they will hug and kiss you back. And so on and so forth, with everything in our lives...We must be smart, fight only with goodness.

So what's your choice?

Everyday God gives us a new opportunity, a new chance to "improve" ourselves, to become perfect and help others attain that perfection. We strive to improve our condition. But how are we doing this? what is our PLAN of success?

We must remind ourselves to use love as our #1 tool. Remind our kids, our husband, our families that we need to be less greedy and more THANKFUL. not always "WANT" but realize that we have enough and we just need to appreciate it more. And if we do not agree or like our condition, take [the right] steps to make it better, seek out experts if need be, be smart in the way we tackle the problem, do not proceed when angry!!!!!

Be proactive.
Make that choice!



All my love!